Guest blogger Mindy Rosier-Rayburn is a NYC teacher of special education who is a member of the UFT Executive Board and President at Chelsea Reform Democratic Club. This was originally posted on Facebook. She gave us permission to post here.
A friend of mine messaged me over the weekend, asking me if I believed the second allegation against Scott Stringer. I didn't respond that night, but did after some thought. Here was my response ...
Thinking more abstractly...because this is really bothering me….
In general, are we the same people we were 30 years ago? One would hope, as we age, we become wiser. We learn from our mistakes and try to live with less regrets. I am more impressed with how a person evolves than who they were long ago. Ten years ago, I wasn't political at all. I wasn't most of my life. I was in an abusive marriage and was so depressed. I was going through the motions and put all of my focus into teaching, my school, my students and my colleagues.
My school is co located with the FIRST Success Academy. I became political because of Eva Moskowitz, as she kept coming after the space in my special needs school. I was trying to save my public school in Harlem. At the time, I met with a few from AQE who gave me a crash course in organizing. They taught me to follow the money, how to organize, who to call, who to meet, etc...People behind Moskowitz $$$.. Dan Loeb. People behind Cuomo's reelection $$$...Dan Loeb. This started everything for me.
In '92 I graduated HS. Same age as her. At 18, I did no harm...but I'm sure I made plenty of mistakes...I know I have in choices of past partners. That unfortunately stems from my own history of sexual abuse. I'm diagnosed with PTSD. I don't take any accusation lightly. I am also an overthinker and I look at every angle.
How do we know she wasn't giving mixed signals to a much younger, less evolved Scott Stringer? I'm more impressed by how he's climbed his way through local politics, what he's done, what he's said he's going to do, etc… How has he been treating women in recent years... I remember a man who almost 6 years ago, pulled me to the side on Broadway, right after 'take-off' on our EdWalk to Albany, letting me know, that if we needed anything, to contact him. I remember a man who called me on the morning of my wedding to congratulate me. I also remember, the first time I met him, he informed me that he enjoyed my Success Academy tweets back during my school fight in the 2012/13 time span. He respected what I stood for, what I was fighting for. These have been some of my experiences.
It just upsets me, that women who may want attention in the current climate, will twist something from way in the past and try to tank a man's opportunity to become Mayor. As an actual survivor, it's insulting and it takes the legitimacy away from true survivors.
If he was still behaving like this...like the current allegations against Cuomo, ok, then there might be a story...
But again, this is from a long time ago. We have to put ourselves into the times of back then and into their minds. What was acceptable then, isn't now...but is that our fault back then? That's why you look at how one evolves.
Is everyone reading this the same exact person they were 30 years ago? 20 years ago? 10 years ago? One's evolution into who they are today should really matter.
My 2 cents...
"The thing is this second woman is using the same lawyer as the first. This anti union lawyer Patricia Pastor who represents non union construction companies. It seems like she might have been trying to find any women who worked for Scott in the past, going back as far as women who waitressed in his bar thirty years ago. I wouldn't be surprised if she was contacting girls he dated in high school! I guess if you are a guy and you ever in the past, even when you were young, misread signals from a girl and made a pass at her, that you should forget a career in politics. It's sad."
This is my opinion. I am not here to argue with anyone and please don't argue with any commenters. Please don't rank Yang, Adams, nor Garcia. Thank you 👊🏽